My business affords me the privilege of talking to a LOT of people, and I
am sometimes baffled that many of my conversations reveal that there
are a LOT of people who do not feel deserving of a better life....
people who think they are unworthy.
Fulfilling our purpose and pursuing our passion are dreams that get lost in adulthood, because we're forced into social constraints and expectations that keep us going to jobs we hate, staying in relationships that don't treat us well, and becoming addicted to substances and behaviours that don't serve our health and well-being. We are now reported to be the most stressed, depressed, overweight, and over-medicated population in history and I think it's because we're inundated with messages from mainstream media that keep telling us we're never good enough. These messages feed our self-talk and that negative narrative then runs in a loop in our brains every day. Is it any wonder that we are feeling stressed and depressed?! I encourage you to start talking to yourself like you talk to your best friend. Our words fuel our thoughts, and our thoughts create our vibes (our energy), and our vibes give us our results. Start telling yourself "I love you" every day, and see how quickly you'll start to feel better. The power of our words is very powerful. The author
of Aspire, Kevin Hall, sums it up nicely.
Til next time,
wishing you Genshai. Your perpetually positive pal, Tanya
GottaLoveLOVE
I recently spoke with a childhood friend who I hadn't conversed with in over 30 years. When I asked how she was, she said she was working away from her family a lot and really didn't enjoy it, but that "the money was really good."
I can't help but wonder what our conversation might be in another 30 years? Would it be one of regret for her -- for having to have worked at something that took her away from her family?
Have you given thought to why you do what you do?
Are you doing a job that you love, or are you doing a job just because it pays your bills and offers a good benefit plan? Or, if you're already retired, are you doing something you're passionate about every day?
Many of us live our lives on auto-pilot without any clear vision of what we truly want for our future.
One of my mentors, Jim Rohn, had a great saying: "If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan... and, guess what they have planned for you? Not much!"
Once you define your "why," it will become easier to find an effective vehicle to help you achieve the big WHY's in your life. Money doesn't make people happy. Of course, we all need money. But, once our basic needs are taken care of, we need a lot more than money to feel happy and fulfilled.
My husband and I have just moved back to Canada, after living in Spain for several years. When we made the decision to return to our native land, we also had to decide whether or not to ship back our "stuff."
We had shipped a 20-cubic-foot container to Spain, in which was packed our most precious belongings... including our car, and the first piece of furniture we bought together as a couple nearly 20 years earlier.
It wasn't just the ridiculous cost of shipping that influenced our decision to leave it all behind in Spain. It was something much more profound ;-)
We had watched a George Clooney movie, where his character traveled the Globe to perform corporate employee terminations. On the side, he was a motivational speaker who used a back-pack as his prop to illustrate his point of how much "stuff" we carry around in life.
While we were stuck on a plane for 6 hours at Gatwick in December, my husband and I had a LOT of time together to mull around our options, and we reflected on that movie!
We decided that we were no strangers to making BOLD decisions. Our lives together have been a series of adventures throughout Europe and North America.
There is something quite liberating about packing up your life in a back-pack, so to speak. We were limited to 29 kilos each of luggage for the journey back across the Atlantic.
We're living the next 90 days in Vancouver, BC. We like the proximity to California, and BC has the mildest weather in Canada.
There's also a reason we've given this trek a 3-month time frame. We've set some pretty huge goals for the next 90 days, and we look forward to sharing the journey with you.
What kind of comments did you hear about money while you were growing up?
How did your parents talk about money? What about your friends?
Did you make fun of the rich kids, or were you one of the rich kids? Even rich kids grow up with hangups and conditioning about money.
ALL of the comments you heard about money while you were growing up have conditioned your mind about money.
I want you to try an exercise. Go and get a clean sheet of paper, and a pen. Ready?
Write out your answer to the following question:
What is my understanding of what money really is?
If you have a negative belief about money, you won't let yourself have it. So, you need to get clear about what exactly money is.
Money is energy. It's a symbol of our life energy.
Every dollar you receive is just an evaluated measurement of your work (the life energy you exchanged with another person). You and that person mutually agreed to what your life energy was worth, and then exchanged a symbol or printed paper of that worth for your energy.
When you start to look at money as life energy, you will naturally start treating it better... and treating yourself and others better.
Make a decision, right now, that you will start doing things to increase your life energy. Start treating yourself, others, and money, with more respect. Say to yourself, repeatedly throughout the day, "money is good, and I can do lots of good things with money."
Be honest with yourself about money.
Are you getting paid what you think you're worth? If not, why not? Be honest! If you're not getting what you honestly think you're worth, then you need to assess why. Do you have the education, skills, contacts, experience, etc. in the market for which you're asking to be paid?
Money is energy. What you give out, you get back. It's that simple.
To avoid building any resentments toward money and people, it's important to work on improving your life energy.
Commit to your education. Commit to giving good value for the work you do. Commit to living your life honestly and ethically. Start now!
Forget the past. Forgive yourself for any past mistakes. Maybe you've done some bad things with money. Write down those mistakes, and honestly ask yourself what you've learned from the experiences... and what you plan to do differently in the future.
Writing is the most powerful form of focus, and what we focus on GROWS. It's the law of the universe, which is as precise as the law of gravity.
Start a Gratitude Journal. Write in it EVERY day. Write down everything you're grateful for. Be specific. Even if you feel you don't have anything to be grateful for, chances are there is someone out there who is worse off than you! If you had a shower and a meal today, you're better off than the millions of impoverished people who live on this planet. Learn to be grateful, and express in in writing EVERY day.
I know when you commit to doing what I've just outlined, you will see a shift in your prosperity.
I look forward to hearing about your journey! In the meantime, enjoy a great Pink tune :-)
